The Savvy Sage of Sewing Stimulation

Not that I’m trying to avoid aging….

…but, there are some rules, and greying is an interesting subject when it comes to allow yourself to grey or not to grey.

This little slide show is an example but there are some interesting things to note about this group in the slideshow.

One thing is that most of these gals, before they were grey, are naturally on the cool-side of the color wheel.  That means a more sallow or peaches & cream complexion turns grey much more attractively than a ruddy complexion…..

Here’s the proof –


This one is really startling – or at least it was for me….she looks like she’s aged 40 years, but it’s all because her auburn hair is gray.



This one would be strange only because the lighter color is really dramatic.  She not only looks bad, she just looks wrong.


Here’s another dramatic example – left is young and vibrant (look at how beautifully flush her skin looks) and right is dead and her skin color is really drained – and believe me I did nothing to her skin color – it’s all in the color of her hair.

Now these look really startling because none of the actresses are really old enough to have grey hair, but to see just how horrible them look, I took them as young – the point is that it doesn’t matter what age you are when you’re a redhead – if you’re ruddy complected then you shouldn’t let yourself go grey.

If you’re not…..


And actually the lighter colors does wonder for an aging face – wonders in the positive direction.

I noticed when my father first started turning gray, and he was a WWII vet  – and men of that age didn’t even think of doing anything like coloring their hair, much less toning it or anything.  His hair started and then his mustache.  And although I though the was the handsomest man alive, without that gray, he would have looked so much better.

For me – I try and keep my hair at some consistent color, but mostly on the blond side as the lighter the color, the younger you look.

This is all about the color and the color wheel, if you’re ruddy and are more warm-paletted complected, then there is no gray in your color range.  That’s why it doesn’t work.

Call it cheating the calendar or staying on the right side of the color wheel – whatever, but red-heads shouldn’t go grey.

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  1. I am not a redhead, and not beautiful, and my coloring is “summer”, and I my “dishwater blonde” hair is graying at 57, which is not a surprise. I choose the color God is giving me mostly because coloring my hair would cost a lot of my time and money.(I think that stripe of gray at the hairline is even MORE aging than allover gray hair)I also am a nurse, and I wonder about how much the constant exposure to the chemicals involved is affecting the health of the women who have it done regularly. My personal favorite beautiful woman is Mother Teresa, who had a face covered in lines and wrinkles, and who knows what color her hair was, but she was lit with beauty from the inside. That’s what I strive for. Just another thought.

  2. I have naturally black hair that has developed a natural white stripe and no more, just like my mom did. She didn’t go all grey until late seventies. She just had that strip for years. I’ve decide that my dark hair really does not flatter my aging face. So I get it highlighte and it really makes a difference. I think the less contrast with ones wrinkling skin the more flattering it can be. So I am foregoing the black with white stripe Liz look for my blondish highlights. Call me vain.

  3. Several years ago, I stopped fighting the inevitable and I let the salt and pepper come in – my hair resisted hair dye and within a week I needed a touch up! It was a total pain to keep colored! With my lighter hair, I also changed my colors. When the hair color changes, so does the skin color (loss of Melanin) which means new colors, new clothes, heck, new shoes if I want ’em! I love the ease of my natural color. Now I am working on losing weight. Nothing ages a gal faster than an extra 40 lbs.

  4. Wow! This is such great news for me as I’m a natural redhead and at age 65 I seem to be the only one of my girl friends that colors my hair. They’ve all let the gray come in and stay. I notice that all the gray fabric and garments on the market today look terrible on me. Now, after reading your post, it’s clear that I should continue to color my hair a natural looking red – yeh me! Thanks.

  5. Boy… a bit judgmental are we? “if you’re ruddy complected then you shouldn’t let yourself go grey.” Hogwash.

    Women shouldn’t be dictating to one another just because another’s concept of what “fashion” says is different. We’re not cookies… no cookie cutter, one size fits all rules, please. If someone wants to color… fine. If someone decides to stop… that’s fine too.

    I just turned 70. I look more like 50, thanks to good genetics [few wrinkles], healthiness and exercise. I’ve been coloring my hair for 30 years and I’m sick and tired of it. I went lighter as I aged, finally living with a dark blondish color that suited my complexion and didn’t look harsh. But still, at 70 I asked what on earth I was afraid of ? Looking my age? Being judged by others who fear and loath natural aging? Sure, I want to look nice, but I asked myself if I couldn’t just adjust my hair style and what colors I wore near my face and just let the grey in the door? The answer I came up with is YES !! It took a bit of courage to say YES, but I’m so glad I did.

    I’ve cut my hair short, pixieish, and I use a toning shampoo and rinse to keep it from looking “tarnished” or whatever they call that somewhat brassy [metallic?] color that’s kind of harsh looking in grey hair. My salt and pepper [mostly salt] looks nice. I have broken out my scarf collection to use around my neck if older wardrobe colors don’t look great with my new hair. I also changed my foundation, lipstick and blush colors a bit to tone down my propensity for ruddiness… It’s cheap to experiment and the sales gals at Bloomies cosmetic counters are there to help.

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